Most adult children of toxic parents grow up feeling tremendous confusion about what love means and how it’s supposed to feel. Their parents did extremely unloving things to them in the name of love. They came to understand love as something chaotic, dramatic, confusing, and often painful—something they had to give up their own dreams and desires for. Obviously, that’s not what love is all about.

Loving behavior doesn’t grind you down, keep you off balance, or create feelings of self-hatred. Love doesn’t hurt, it feels good. Loving behavior nourishes your emotional well-being. When someone is being loving to you, you feel accepted, cared for, valued, and respected. Genuine love creates feelings of warmth, pleasure, safety, stability, and inner peace.

— Susan Forward, Toxic Parents, p381 (via mxnotmrdarcy)
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If you repeatedly criticize someone for liking something you don’t, they won’t stop liking it. They’ll stop liking you.
— (via aliwallacee)
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namikadraw:

jbirdmusic:

Because I feel like a few of my followers, like myself, need this sometimes.

I love Butters  for that he said it. That’s is very important to me. Especially now.

namikadraw:

jbirdmusic:

Because I feel like a few of my followers, like myself, need this sometimes.

I love Butters for that he said it. That’s is very important to me.
Especially now.

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namikadraw:

shootingstarsafterdark:

ChaosLife - Homo Hint

With comments too great not to include. You should check the heck out of that webcomic series either way 8D



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crofesima:

😸 Bakemonogatari:  Tsubasa Cat

She was enchanted by a cat. Enchanted by a cat just like I was attacked by a demon. The spirit had a good reason. In this case, the reason was probably the dissension and distortion in the family that brought her up. Still… Tsubasa Hanekawa offered her hand to me. During that spring break, even though she didn’t have any free time, nevertheless, she pulled me up from the deepest pit.
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jaeger-relatable:

walkthiswayne:

I made a comic about titans.

Based off of this text post

It’s not great but it’s done and that’s what matters.

Titan defeated.

I love you

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namikadraw:

melodiesofmayhem:

crab-cakes:

kexx:

officer1bdi:

hannasnonsense:

Telling someone they’re not good enough is not okay

Telling someone they’re not good enough is not okay


I don’t care if you’re joking. I don’t care if you think ‘It will push them to work harder.’ Because it isn’t a joke, and it will not always make someone want to work harder to prove you wrong.

Sometimes they accept it as a fact, then they live with a mindset of “Why try when I’m just going to fail?”

It’s not okay.

GPOY

I remember acing my AP European History test and being ecstatic about it until I told my father and he shrugged it off like it was nothing. Then I felt terrible for feeling so proud of myself.

This sort of shit fucks people up man. Perfectionism is not something that can be obtained and it is a horrible, negative schema to get stuck in. No matter how well I did it was never good enough for my mom. “Go get involved! (when I was younger)” “Well now that you’re involved now I have to drive you places…” “Man Tae Kwon Do is getting pretty expensive” “Why would you quit? You quit everything! You’re a quitter.” “Omg why’d you get a B?” “Oh you got all As…eh.” Currently going through therapy to get over this mentality. 

"Everyone else can do this, why can’t you?" "You’re just being lazy, you need to work harder." "No, don’t give me excuses. You failed because you didn’t care enough." "You let yourself fail. You should have seen your partner’s behavior and taken the work load all onto yourself. You let that happen and you let yourself fail." "College is so important and you have to go" ( "I mean, sometimes some people aren’t cut out to go to college." ) "I know you’re capable of more than a C, so why aren’t you doing better." "You’re not trying hard enough to get a job. People probably haven’t called you back because your hair is a strange color" (fyi, it was a sandy blonde). "Why can’t you just do things my way for once."

There’s more where that came from, but I think you get the point. The hilarious part is that my mom always asks “You should come talk to me if you have any problems, okay honey?” Yeah, okay. That’s exactly what I’m going to do after 20 some odd years of that.

THIS. tHIS. THis. This. THIS. this. this x infinity cause this shit is stupid and needs to be stopped and wow.

People should understand that is wrong say somehing like this. I had a friend who thought that all of these statements is true. And I feel bad, because I couldn’t explain she that she is very good in everything… She’s parents even today say she these opinions, and she agree with them because she belive thats is the best way. But I see that is not god for her. Maybe is god for for her mom and dad. But certainly not for her. …

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whisperingf0rests:

artbymoga:

Most importantly: you’re stronger than you think.

WHY DOES THIS NOT HAVE MORE NOTES

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